[Italia_Lena]

Thanks for your response. With all do respect...Elliot and I discussed this again last night. I believe him when he tells me that he wouldn't allow it when we are together under one roof because he respects my feelings. However, I must respect the fact that he is under that roof alone right now. I don't live there and we arent married. (That is my feeling, not something he told me). I'm still not saying what he is doing by allowing it in his basement that day is right, I am however leaving it in his hands, it is his house. He is 30 years old, and I cannot tell him what to do or babysit him. We discussed what we do with our children, and he says by no stretch of the imagination would this be okay. He would teach them morals and values, and wouldn't allow it freely.
I guess the biggest difference with he and I on this matter is that he grew up with it present (his brother and cousins did it) so it wasn't foreign to him, the way it is to me.

I just found out the other night, how many people that are extremely close to me, still smoke it. It was rather disappointing, but once again, do I disown them as my friends/family because of it? No.

I think what is most important to remember is that Elliot doesn't smoke it. I know some of you read that statement and say "whatever girl you are nuts" but I trust his word to me, he is sincere, and I respect him. I truly believe he is telling me the truth about all of this. Including the way things will be when we are under one roof.