Lorelei,
You know I understand where you are coming from. Some of my brothers and one of my sisters (actually two if my suspicions are right) did weed when they were teenagers. I was informed that my oldest brother actually sold it!
When I originally first heard about this, I was so angry (I just found out all of this last week) Here I am bagering Elliot for his involvements and supportive nature of this drug, and I come to find out that it was very close to my family. In my family!!!
I came to a positive place in my mind though, I realized that at least my siblings, and Elliot figured out that it wasn't doing them any good and they quit.
Sure it may not be a "harmful drug" the way that herione, coke, or speed is, however it does keep you stuck. I so much agree with that! So thanks for sharing your story. I know it is very personal, but remember I am not holding any different judgements on you because of it.
Nachos,
Respectfully I would like to thank you for your post. I agree that it is commendable of Elliot to be sensative of me when we are married. I haven't really questioned him as "NOT" being sensative to me now. I guess this can go many different ways, depending on how you look at it. I for one believe Elliot loves me, and he would not do anything to intentionally hurt me. I've sometimes wondered if it is an "impress my cousins" kinda thing with him. I sometimes wonder if they wouldn't talk to him if he didn't allow this to take place in his home or in his presence. I've never right out asked him though.
Maybe one day when I feel comfortable and the time feels right, I will ask him that. Until than, I will still be loving him with all my heart and soul.
Just as LORELEI has stated, this doesn't MAKE someone a BAD person.