[NegraD]

I've never lived with a man, so maybe I should not contribute my opinion. But I was asked to move in by a nice man I once dated and then by a middle-aged boy posing as a man. Anyway, I said no to both because I, like a lot of women I know, found that when some men feel that you may say yes to moving in with them, they start taking you for granted. I never did it, so I don't know what would have happened afterwards. (Well, with the "boy," I know that that would have been a disaster.) But, a few of my girlfriends who have moved in say that once you do the man feels like he has a wife and then doesn't feel the need to do the necessary "work" he once did or should do and that the wedding and marriage are no big deal to them. I want a man to continue to appreciate me before and after the wedding. I would worry that he may become complacent if I moved in ahead of time. Besides, if he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then he can wait for you to move in after the wedding. I guess I'm old-fashioned that way. Oh well. Just my two cents... Whatever your decision, I wish you every happiness in the world. Make sure that you do what is best for you, amiga, regardless of what anyone says. Blessings to you...

--D.