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To whom it may concern:
I must admit that I haven't taken the time to read the entire thread but I will say this. It's not whether a cerain group of men like a certain group of women because generally speaking ALL men and women are attracted to eachother regardless of race or culture.
Word is bond son, women must learn the difference between BEAUTY and ATTRACTION and that may help answer some of your problems.
BEAUTY--is what pleases the eye and ego. Beauty is learned and often influenced by the standards of whatever society we live in. In THIS society light skin, straight hair, and keen features leads to a woman's "beauty". This is why some men have a "trophy" woman...to show off.
ATTRACTION--is what pleases the sexual organs and soul. It is instictual and God-given to us by nature. No matter what society we live in women, with smooth skin, light voice, nice personality, and curvacious body will always be found "attractive".
This same thing relates to men also.
How does that relate to the topic?
Women are women no matter what color and you have attractive ones and unattractive ones of all races. In THIS society women of African descent carrying strong African features may be VERY attractive but not
"beautiful" in a classic sense and this is the problem. It causes struggle in a lot of mens' minds because they've been taught all their lives what they SHOULD be attracted to but Mother Nature is telling them different. Peer pressure only multiplies this problem because if the man didn't have to worry about what other people said...then he'd probably date whoever he felt like with ease.
I'm sure a lot of men who've seen fat women they've found gorgeous know what I'm talking about. In this society fat women aren't beautiful but we all know some fat women with STRONG sexual appeal because of their skin and curves. This intimidates some men.
Originaly before colonialism. What people found "beautiful" almost always lined up with what they found "attractive". But since then in Western society, as long as a woman has strong African features like very dark skin, big nose, kinky hair she'd won't be called beautiful in public but may have men hitting on her in private.
Word is bond, a lot of people can't handle these contradictions in society and it causes some to become bitter or develop mental and emotional problems.
[Edited by Loom on 29th July 2003 at 18:25]
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