Where to begin, oh yes as you suggest with point blank questions, and I do have one, even though I am darn tired with the royal battle I am having with GingerAlex and her TERRORIST ORGANIZATION. So I will try to make this brief, if not terse for sure.
First let me say, that I opine that Stan the Physician is capable of 'bracketing his foolishness' and being professional with you about the health problems of your husband. I know,...I know he was callous and insensitive in the extreme about your marriage issue of getting children, and even wanted to give instructions to your husband on how to have sex with you. However, that issue was not really a health issue, since not having children does not mean that a female is unhealthy. You appear to be quite healthy with all the meditation and exercises you do daily. The exercise it seems flows over to your husband too. He must exercise each and every day to maintain the proper weight and muscle tone for his height. And there has been no indication from you that he is overweight, but is instead right for his height and body type.
Now, after the bombshell of your announcement that he has a brain tumor, you found that he is losing weight, what because he needs too as being overweight and continues exercising but is now losing weight?? I say this because you are not naive about health issues, and you have proved that by many posts in which talk about such things, and also about the proper diet and naturapathic remedies also. Even a layman like me, who is at times quite hermetically sealed as to my emotions, was alerted that losing weight is a serious sympton when one has a pre-cancerous condition. I say farther that no doctor in his right mind would ask your husband to lose weight when he has a tumor. But you hinted that your husband doesn't want to say yes or no with respect to the fact that he must have brain surgery. He doesn't want to alarm you perhaps. And I think you said if what he is doing is alright with him, then it is alright with you. Ooops, not so. You got to take charge; it is better to know and deal with the issue, since you are still not the one who is seriously ill. And anyone with a tumor intercranially, even if it is still benign is at least seriously ill and needs others to guide him.
I think it would be prudent that you not ignore anything about him, even if he wants you to. Really, I had hoped that Stan and you could have put your differences about politics, social issues, and economics aside, BRACKET THEM ALL FOR THE DURATION, and that he would have offered sound advice. He seemed to be disposed to that when he heard the bad news by what he said about the precancerous, and how he asked you immediately whether the tumor was intercranial or external on the head. He showed rapid interest in a medical way, and in one of his latest posts still seems to tend to want to help you, if you would just bracket the other stuff, and not get angry with your memories over how he has treated you and your mom in the past.
Ufff!, if I go on anymore, I will get exhausted. But this is to let you know that I am here, and will return later after I rest and get some light and nourishing food and beverage into me. C ya later tonight Suki, after 11PM probably.
Till then I remain,
Eddie R.
