And I would offer to opine that -- you cannot "LOSE" what you never had. Get over it and move on. Regardless of his motives for wanting a latina, it is not up to you to sit around and pick that apart and CLAIM to know what he's thinking (one way or the other) black women are notorious for doing this -- not realizing it only alienates black men even MORE (I hope this is ringing clear, btw). Not only black men, but then latinos, even white men. But since getting with a man who isn't black (representing a comfort zone that most black women are not willing to leave) is too much to ask, they'd rather cling to a man who doesn't want them and has basically said such -- either with words and/or actions!