Does love equal misery?

[hvalentin5349]

I was my mothers punching bag when I was little. I think that perhaps she has some king of mental condition. Like schitzopherenia or paranoia or something. But the women thinks that everyone in the family and people in general were out to get her. That really screwed me up as a kid!

[Colorblind]

Originally Posted by hvalentin5349

I was my mothers punching bag when I was little. I think that perhaps she has some king of mental condition. Like schitzopherenia or paranoia or something. But the women thinks that everyone in the family and people in general were out to get her. That really screwed me up as a kid!

I guess we found the root of your problem??? Where is your mother today? Has her condition gotten better? If you are able to talk to your mother, you need to go to her. There needs to be allot of healing and forgiveness taking place. Even though I did not suffer the level of abuse that you did, I can relate.

My mom only abused me really bad once in my life and I think that scared her. She beat me so bad that I basically blacked out. When I woke up, I was in some strange man's house. (another one of her "boyfriends") I was about 4 yrs old when that happened. So I know about things happening as a kid that can screw you up as an adult. My mom's main thing was neglect. Try wandering the city streets looking for attention. So dear I know how you feel.

You want to reach out and love others but you feel unworthy yourself. You fear rejection yet you choose relationships w/ those that reject you. It's a vicious cycle that only Christ can break.

Originally Posted by Colorblind

OK, I was not going to say anything but, I'm totally angry w/ your post. I'm not angry w/ you Valentin. I'm angry w/ the enemy. (el diablo) I don't know if you believe in dark forces in this world but they are real and very dangerous. Well I'm about to expose one today. That's the spirit of depression. I bind that spirit in your life cause you are God's creation. Don't you ever ever ever say that you are unworthy to be loved by a women. The word of God distinctly says that it is not good for man to be alone. (Genesis 2:18) God created us women to be helpers and be a blessing.

I want to encourage you to focus on loving and appreciating yourself; However, in order to achieve that you have to Love God 1st. By receiving Him and becoming a new person you can learn to put those old things behind you. (Acts 2:38) I'm not telling you something that I don't practice myself.

I too have suffered greatly at the hands of the opposite sex but, God is healing me and restoring my faith in Love . Yes I could have turned my back on all men. Maybe even have gone the other way. But you have to remember there is always someone worse off than you.

So I encourage you first to give your life to Christ and let Him make you over. Learn to start over and live life again. Stop w/ the pity party and put a smile on your face Mister.

One last thing, for some reason I'm sensing some unresolved issues between you and your mother. That appears to be the root of your problem w/ women. I'm not trying to be Dr. Phil but I tend to discern well. Correct me if I'm wrong. Could it be that she did not show you enough Love as a child?

Did she push you away and substitute something else in your place?

I'll stop here before I start going off the deep end. Take care Valentin & you're in my prayers.

Praise God for you Colorblind..

[Colorblind]

Originally Posted by Delgado22

Praise God for you Colorblind..

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!