Help!! need advise broken hearted for the 2nd time

[lugo]

Hello all,
I am very hurt and emotionaly destroyed. I don't believe in men being faithful. I have tried for the 2nd time to start a wonderful relationship and it has failed. my first marriage lasted 7yrs and I was happy and so was he for the first 5yrs but I don't know what happened he stop talking to me about things and I swear i tried everything to make it work but he fell for another woman. the second time around it lasted four years he also cheated everyone tells me it's not me I try my damnest but maybe i just try too hard. I gave Up.

[m_nixon]

Don't say that maybe you are going for the wrong type of gut. Discover yourself first and then you will know what type of guy is right for you.

[Eda]

Lugo, You hang in there girl. You know life has so many obstacles and challenges that we have to get thru. Our Faith is being challenged constantly. Keep the faith and dont give up. You know sometimes we all need a break from things.... Find yourself, focus on the positive part of you. Build your confidence back up. Before you go out there to find your next HOMBRE, Find YOURSELF first. Whats the rush, there going to be out there no matter what. And for them messing up on you like that...Que Basura Scum!!! Keep your head up high, and keep walking girlfriend. Dont let nobody get you down. Email me okay....Cuidate CaliRican Eda

[lugo]

what do you mean to discover myself. I know who I am and what I want I just no where or how to get it. The rush is that I am very lonely and have been for a really long time. for some reason I just can't seem to fill that empty place in my heart. I consider myself a kind and giving person but i have been taken for granted one too many times. my family tells me i'm too kind and I need to stop but that's just the way I am helping and giving to others makes me feel good inside. so what am i doing so wrong that i can't find someone who can give me some love or affection back. thank you so much for writing. I really appreciate your comments. plz write back.

[BEECHO]

Hello BABY

Your Media Naranja is out there, my advise from areal MAN is to:

1. Get in shape if you are not, I mean really get those BUNS tight.

2. Have plastic surgery, fix any imperfections in you face, it's not as expensive as you think.

3. Always dress modern, intelligent and sexy but not TACKY or SLUTTY.

And what will happen is, you will have a lot of men to choose from, and the ONE that will be doing the DUMPING will be YOU, until you find the RIGHT ONE.

[Lja]

Lugo,
This is EPP, a friend of Lja. I just read your note. It seems that you don't fully understand what people mean when they say "discover yourself."
You've said that you're lonely, you have a void within you, and that you're tired of men taking you for granted.
O.K. we have ALL been there and sister, I sympathize. However...
What you need to recognize is that you're giving yourself away. Are you hearing me? As women we all do it at one point or another. We give ourselves away by placing the responsibility of our self-fulfillment in someone else's hands. We figure if we give so much, we will get so much. That's a myth but unfortunately, we rely upon it. When our needs are unfulfilled, we find ourselves needing and wanting even more from our men. NO man (or woman for that matter)is going to fulfill our every expectation and need. Men can sense when they're going to be bled dry and sometimes walk out because of it. As women, we have been trained to expect a man to make us happy and "complete" us; and think it's simply a matter of finding the right man. That's bullsh-- darling. You MUST find the joy and fulfillment you require within yourself. Yes, it sounds cheesy but simple truths always are. That's what it means to "Discover Yourself." Being comfortable within your own skin, and with your own company takes time. You're looking for a man to fill a void that is your OWN responsibility to fill. It is a process that we must ALL go through.
If you're feeling this way, this is not an issue about finding the right man. He will come! Who the hell said he has to come the first, or even the second time around?
However, before that can happen what you need to do is use this time to think about yourself and what you've learned from these two failed relationships. If you don't analyze this, you'll face the same pitfalls the third time around.
Remember, there are those who love you so don't give up, and don't become embittered. There ARE decent men out there. Like my sister said before me, keep the faith.
E.

[Gladys_Tirado]

HiLugo: You have gotten good advice from others. When a relationship is broke, it fills you are dying, but always look for the better part, when something bad happens, other is going to be good. Really, sit-down write all the good and the bad that you went thru in your previous relationships and you may find the cause. I only married once and haven't date in yrs. and I'm happy, I find other things to do, have good friends and now I'm here,it's a lot of fun. I live alone, it make me feel good to do what I want and go were I want, don't have to wonder if HE is going to call.TrapitoGT

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