Reality...religious boundries

[Katrina_isabelle]

hey y'all. I actually became a member of this web site just to get some info. for school. Then i started exploring around the pages and i found that this is actually a cool site...sooooo i thought i'd ask for some advice on something that's been on my mind.
OK,well this guy named Michael and we REALLY like eachother a lot. We just click,ya know? So he's a senior and i'm a freshman. He's supposed to be a Junior,though.He's only 16. I'm 14,almost 15,he's almost 17. Anyway he just moved here to houston from Israel last year so he's a strict orthodox Jew . I'm Catholic though. he says we can't be together because #1.the difference in religions ,and #2. he'll be going off to college in 6 months.
Anyway,he wants me to be ''closer'' to him and stuff,but i'm SO scared because I don't want to get attached and then see him go with some other girl because she's Jewish,OR watch him go off to college and leave me here...I'm gonna miss him as it is, i don't wanna miss him any more than i will already. He told me that he's scared of attachment,too. The thing is that he's acting like he just wants to live in the moment,while i'm looking to the future.I've always been that way though,because in the past when i've lived in the moment.i've been hurt. I'm not sure what to do but i think i need to do somehitng soon because it grows more serious every day. I mean,we might as well be going out...we act like we are...you know what? I just realized something that i haven't been wanting to admit. I have this fear that he doesn't want to go out with me,he just wants to mess around,and that he's using his religion as an excuse. i don't know for sure,but it's just that i know he's better than that so i feel guilty for even THINKING that. He'd be so hurt if he knew i thought that.but hey,i'm human with human concerns. Well if anyone can give me any advice on what to do,i'd love to see a repsonse,thanks so much,
Katrina

[Lorelei]

You know what Katrina? Listen to your gut. Listen to that little voice inside you that is questioning things. You don't NEED to do anything. He's already told you up front you have no future together. But he wants you to be "closer" to him? Talk about mixed signals! I'm going to jump to conclusions here and assume that being "closer" means getting physical with him. You don't need to go there with someone you have no future with. That's for someone who is in love with you, is committed to you and is ready to marry you. My advice, if you want it, is to keep it on a friendship basis only. You're only 14. Do you know how many men you're going to meet between now and the time you're 25? And there will be someone out there who will be much better for you than this guy.

There's more that I want to say, because I want to jump into my mother role, but I'm not going to. You've probably already heard it all before. But, since you asked. I say listen to that smart voice inside your head that says, "Watch out!"

[Katrina_isabelle]

Lorelei,
Thanks so much for your advice,believe it or not,it helped me tremendously just to hear that someone was listening. heh,i guess i knew it all along,ya know? it's just kinda hard to go with what my concious tells me when he's smiling at me with that precious smile...well,i'm sure u know how it is. Anyway thank you, I needed to hear that.
Katrina

[Lorelei]

You're welcome! You better believe I remember those days! Even now, sometimes when I get a smile like that from some young, handsome man, it still stirs things up in me. I have to tell myself, "Whoa girl! Get a grip. He's young enough to be your son!" Hee, hee! I might be older and married, but I'm not dead!

[Katrina_isabelle]

Lorelei,
I just told Michael that i just want to act friendly towards him and he didn't take it too well. Oh gosh that was SO HARD,but i did it and i feel relieved in a way.And i feel alot stronger now,and i have u to thank for that.
Katrina

[Lorelei]

Good for you! You are strong!

[Italia_Lena]

Hello Katrina!

We spoke on another board in this forum (open board). I am glad to hear you got my message. I was cruising thru here and saw your post, thought I might give you my personal opinion. DON'T DO IT! You are 14, almost 15 and that is so so so young. I know you have feelings for him, but the guy sounds like he is in it for the kicks if you know what I mean I am 24 years old and thinking back when I was your age, boy I remember how it was. A boy looks your way, your heart races a million miles a second. You are noticed. It is a wonderful feeling. My advice to you is to go to school, concentrate on your studies, as boring as that may sound, it will put you in a good place in your life later. From now until you are my age, 24...you will have dated so many different men, you will look back on Mike and say "MIKE WHO??"

I am going through a very rough time right now, due to a guy who broke my heart, so I know that what I tell you is true! Hopefully you can take in what I tell you and decide for yourself. Listen to Lorelei, she gives wonderful advice and her motherly instinct is the best The guy wants SEX. I hate to say it so bluntly, but that is what it is. He just wants to satisfy his hormones, and you don't need to assist him on that!

Your friend,