IS IT REALLY TRUE LOVE?

[e_gerena]

HI I MET THIS GIRL 4 YEARS AGO AND I NEVER MET A GIRL LIKE HER BEFORE. SHE WAS EVERYTHING I LOOKED FOR IN A GIRL. SHE WAS ACTUALLY ME BUT THE OPPOSITE..LOL. ANYWAY, SHE WENT BACK TO PUERTO RICO TO GO TO COLLEGE AND WE KEPT COMMUNICATING TO EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME. SHE CAME BACK TO MY LIFE NOW AND SHE CHANGED A BIT AND WE HAD SOME PROBLEMS...MORE LIKE MISCOMMUNICATIONS. LONG STORY SHORT, WE BOTH KNEW THAT WE HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL BUT WE BOTH AREN'T READY TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP. SHE'S GOING BACK TO PUERTO RICO TO FINISH HER STUDY AND I'M GOING TO FINISH MY STUDIES HERE IN THE STATES THEN GO TO PUERTO RICO TO STAY THERE. I GUESS I WONDER IF SHE COMES BACK TO MY LIFE DOES THAT MEAN THAT WE WERE MEANT FOR EACH OTHER?

- PLEASE REPLY TO THIS MESSAGE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, THANK YOU.

SINCERELY,

CONFUSED SOUL

[Saint_Tiger]

I've played this game before, and it can be a very dangerous one. These misscommunications will increase, mainly because both of you will continue to change. We all change, constantly. And if we don't change with the ones that we love,... we may end up losing them, unless our love is strong and we ignore the endless changes that compromise what we want from one another.
I change everyday, so do the people that I've known all my life. I had a cousin that went to college, decided one day to drop and become a priest,.. and several years later I hear that he's rolling on up in the computer industry. There's a good example of change. But change can also happen internally.

And internally is where it counts the most. When you first fall in love with someone you take all the good with all the bad. But when you are in love with someone and they change,... what you once accepted has changed. You both need to "find" each other again. My best advice. Imagina que la estas conquistando por primera vez. Don't argue about the differences that being apart will bring. Imagine this is someone new, because she is (in a way), and you have to hold on to that heart if you really really want it.

If you can't do that (which is easie said than done), I would suggest to become friends, stay close, and watch as the wheels turn, because you could again,.. be more than friends.



Saint_Tiger

[e_gerena]

Hey thanks Saint_Tiger for the advice. It really made alot of sense to me but again it is easier said then done like you mentioned before. I mean, how do you cope with life day by day knowing that you might not have the one person that you truly love. I know that she knows that I'm a real nice guy and that I can treat her like a queen. I can treat her the way she deserve to be treated. I just pray to god everyday and hope that one day we can be together officially. Now, as far as how,when and where is going to happen? well, I leave that to the lord. I always said that love is constant, meaning that it's something you don't plan, it just happens over a period of time. Call me crazy but isn't a strong relationship based on a strong friendship as well or is it based on "Love at first sight kind of thing." Sometimes I do think that I'll never reach her heart because she was shot down so many times and it will be more difficult for me to reach that milestone. Can you give me any advices on what to do or how to handle something like that? Does anyone out there experienced similar events like mines, if so, please reply to this message as soon as possible, thank you.

[tots]

Hey, e-gerena....keep ya hed up, man!
that's the only thing u can do, that won't drive u crazy.
I've been there to.....my girlfriend went to study to a foreign country. for 3 months man, i went there (in England, Manchester) to visit her during my studies. just didn't work out...
she came back, told me she is happy now with a black guy from india and sorry.
I felt like she ripped my heart out, distance tore us apart. i blamed myself couse couldnt keep things goin, i relly-relly loved that girl. the bases of a true n pure love is friendship. she was my best friend already before we started going out. n know......she hates me!
me and she we have many common friends, these friends helped me get over her. at least they think so, i'm calm now, friends think i'm cool. fact is i'll never get over her
i even dont know what bothers me the most, the fact she dumped me or that she chose someone else..
but i do know that sometimes u just gotta let things go.
hope. pray. call her every time possible. but man, if she wanna go she go....
we're only human, gotta do things the human way, no matter how much they might hurt!

wish u all the best, hope u get lucky!!!!!!
tots