Men: put your pride aside & tell me what you feel, honestly

[BSoli]

Things would be so much easier if men would put their prides aside and really talk to us. Women put their guard down and let you in whole heartedly, yet...when the s... hits the fan...you guys {vast majority) hit the pavement. What is up with that???

[jazzpr]

the men you are talking about obviously still have issues to figure out.also they re probably young and still dont know what or who they really want.most men dont usually let their guard down unless they are head over heels in love.but then they too become vulnerable and end up getting taken advantage of,and to a man to have that happen to hurts his pride more than his feelings.most women think men dont have feelings, that we are all just cold dogs.well let me tell you that is just not true.although there are some s.o.b.'s out there that make hard for some of the good guys to find their soulmate.dont judge us all,become a friend before you become a lover.then you can honestly decide if the love is true fact or fiction.

[LiLBoricuaKing21]

Just to tell you guys there are men that are cold dogs and there are men who are almost pure and perfect for their females.But I agree with you Jazzpr some women think men don't really have a heart for love.As apposed to feeling men have that to but some think it's good not to show it.I personally think that of a woman is giving her all to the man,the man should do the same.But all this I hear about men being dogs ain't TRU.Like Jazzpr said there are some s.o.b.'s out there that ruin mens' reputation.If not some women are looking for the wrong kind of man.But who can tell anymore you just have to learn for yourself.But until you know a man for his Tru inside you know nothing about him.That's all I got to say about this the choice on what you think about men is yours.

[BSoli]

Jazz...I hear what you are saying...
but this man, we were friends for 4 years before we became lovers and married. he is surely not a young guy (34). i am the kind of person who always gives the benefit of the doubt, but since i posted that message, he has shown me that he had no love in his heart, not for me, our children...so, yes, there the few ruin it for those guys who are good, who are MEN.

[BSoli]

Originally posted by BSoli
Jazz...I hear what you are saying...
but this man, we were friends for 4 years before we became lovers and married. he is surely not a young guy (34). i am the kind of person who always gives the benefit of the doubt, but since i posted that message, he has shown me that he had no love in his heart, not for me, our children...so, yes, there the few who ruin it for those guys who are good, who are MEN.

[jazzpr]

Bsoli, I feel for you girl,that's so hard to believe that after 4 years of frienship and then a marriage it ended up like that.marriage is like going to school, the more you attend the more you learn and can take with you through your marital life.but if you drop out you'll never know what it could of become.I married my best friend,we met in a park in ny when I was spinning (dj).we were 15 when we met and ended up being each others main squeeze for a long time.I went to florida and she hooked up with a guy I knew who just took advantage of a good woman.we got together in 86 by luck and here we are 14 years and 3 boys later.we to had our ups and downs but the key is to never give up a good thing cause you might not get it back.In a marriage as with any relationship,if you cant appreciate someone who always demostrated that they had the best intentions for you then you dont know how to love.cause to love someone there has to be appreciation.Bsoli stand your ground for you and your kids they are the only important thing to you.although I dont know what cause the marriage to end, he's responsible for those kids,so make sure he is.I wish you love and happiness.