Did I do anything wrong?

[LatinMama]

This past January I started writing to let's call him X. We hit it off over the phone and it was like love at first sight--(we still haven't met face to face). Many a time, he had made plans to come and see me but something always happened.The first time he hurt his toe, then for the next couple of times, it snowed pretty bad and flights were canceled--so of course another disappointment--I had made plans to go over there but, his work was taking him elswhere so i had to cancel---anyway ---to make a long story short, he called my house the other day--i wasn't home--i was in school---my mom called him another name not by his--i never got th message ---now he hasn't spoken to me since sunday (that is how i found out about the phone call) He says he is hurt--I can understand that but what does that have to do with me? Did I do anything wrong?

[LiLBoricuaKing21]

NAW YOU AIN'T DO NOTHIN WRONG.IT COULD BE AN HONEST MISTAKE YOUR MOM DID.I THIKNO YOU GUYS SHOULD TRY TO TALK IT OUT.OR TRY TO FIND OUT ABOUT THE MESSAGE.

[LatinMama]

He won't even talk to me. I e-mail him--nothing--he says he can't talk now--so i wait all day-- no call--

[LiLBoricuaKing21]

MAYBE YOU SHOULD BE AGREESIVE OR A LIL ROUGH ON HIM.I MEAN YOU SOUND LIKE YOU TRYIN HARD.BUT YOU REALLY GOTTA KIND A WAY TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM.I THINK HE NEEDS TO COOL OFF AND THINK ABOUT IT CUZ HE MIGHT LOOSE SOMEONE HE CHERISHES. BELIEVE ME I KNOW HOW IT IS.BUT YOU GOTTA HANG IN THERE AND KEEP TRYING.

[PRtaina]

It seems as though it's a misunderstanding/miscommunication problem. He's probably upset because he's thinks since your mother called him by another name that you are seeing someone else, and that you are a cheat or something.

Just let him know that your mother made a mistake and that you apologize. There's not much more that you can do, if he is not answering your emails or phone calls than just give him his time. It's kind of immature that he just tends to ignore and not talk about it(even though alot of men do that..lol) You did your part, now it's his turn. If he really wants to work things out than he'll call you or email you. Just be patient and give him a little bit of time.

PRtaina

[LatinMama]

Thanks everyone I am going to take your advice--give him time--after all--i guess it will be his loss--i'll wait for him to call.please don't stop writing--the words you guys say to me ---they mean alot.

[Saint_Tiger]

Aright,... now as the story goes I gotta agree somewhat with PRtaina. It's only fair
But I also have to disagree. From personal experiencia. See, cuz like she said, we can be some very stupid hard headed men. You want to soften him up? Pues this is my advice,.. don't just wait for him to call. Tell him what's on your mind.

something along the lines of. " There's no one else, just you. My mother thought that you were someone else. And just because that she thought that doesn't give you the right to accuse me of cheating on you if that's what you're thinking. And if that's the case, then maybe this thing going on right now should be the other way around. I haven't done anything to make you think that I'm cheating on you. I thought you knew me better than that."

Bueno,.. algo parecido, but seriously,.. if he thinks something like that about you and you haven't given him any reason to doubt, then that's just plain not cool. After that you can do like said,... dale su espacio y si el quiere, vendra por tu mano. give him his space, and when he's ready, he'll come for your hand.
But don't wait too long, ,...hmm,.. that kind of goes against what I believe,... oh well,. it's the truth,..
"You never knew what you had until it's gone."