He tried to die

[LABOY]

So I had writen a thread that asked what I should do about my boyfriend hitting me. Well I left him, but yesterday he went over to get the rest of his stuff and he slit his wrists right in front of me. I wrestled the knife away from him so now I have a seriously sliced finger. My house is full of blood, and I don't have the guts to clean it. I shouldn't have left him. What do I do now, he is in the hospital. How can I make it up to him? HELP ME PLEASE. I am trying to stay strong for my daughter, but it is very dificult. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!

[PRtaina]

Laboy,

It is not your fault so please don't take the blame on yourself. You had to make a decision that was in the best interest for your daughter and you. Obviously your ex has some severe problems. First he hits you than he slits his wrists? He needs to find some help, phsycological help. Nothing should ever so critical that one should slit their wrists. Yeah we all have heartbreaks and break-ups but it is NOT the end of the world. So don't take it upon yourself to "owe" him anything. He created the problem for himself.

So my advice to you: Keep strong and watch for the safety of your daughter. The way i think about it is if he was willing to slit HIS OWN wrists, i'm sure he can probably do it to someone else. I really don't think that he is ready for anything until he finds help for himself first. So don't feel as if it is your fault, it is NOT!

Advice for him: Allow him to know that he does have a reason to survive the break-up, for his DAUGHTER. Though under the conditions he's in he really needs to seek help to learn how to control his feelings and his temper. He has some issues he has to deal with because no one in their right mind would do such a thing. So if you feel you can, let him know you can be a friend but this is about it. I'm not sure in the condition he'll be willing to accept but it's better than nothing. You just did the best for your daughter and you. Who knows what the future holds?

So just take care and keep cool! I know it must be very hard but just pray and ask God to give the strength! There is power in prayer

PRtaina

[Michelle_C]

Sweetie,
Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction, if that man is willing to do such a thing, it's not out of love, but to control you, just think, today it may be you, or himself he takes his anger on, tomorrow it may be your daughter, don't wait until he leaves your child without a mother, or leave you looking at your child lying in a casket, because that time is was towards her his anger. Man like that rarely change, don't wait until is too late.

[Sexy_Rican]

hey LABOY,don't blame yourself for what he did to himself.he has some mayor problems that are beyond his control.you need to move foward and protect yourself and your BABY GIRL.you never know what he migh do next.i know that you must love him and care for him a lot but you shouldn't go back with him just because he did that.my opinion is that he probably did that so that you would feel GUILTY and SCAREDand eventually go back with him.you need to be strong and look at it this way,life is too short to be with someone who doesn't respect you and treat you well.i know is hard to find quality men out there but trust me there is,u just need to be patient.you and your daughter deserve the best so sweety don't settle for anything less.just be there for him as a friend and as your baby's father but i don't think that you should go back with him.is gonna hurt for a while and you're gonna MISS HIM like CRAZY but trust me you will get over him,cause time heals everything.just be real careful because he has psycological problems and if he did that to himself he might do anything to anyone else.cuidate laboy and God bless you and your baby girl...XOXO (sexy_Rican)boricua

[PoncegirlnATL]

First of all I want to commend you for sharing what you are going through with us. You are not alone and you are doing the right thing by talking to others. It just may be that the information below is exactly what you are looking for.
Based on your info I think, and I hope, these places are not far from you.

The Shelter for Battered Women tel.# is (478)743-5445
This is what they offer:
*Shelter for women and their children in emergency domestic violence situations
*Individual counseling
*Weekly support groups for women and their children
*Referrals to appropriate organizations
*Monthly legal clinic (help with restraining orders)

The Young Women's Christian Association (YWCA)
tel.# is (912)743-5468
These are some of the services YWCA offers:
*the largest provider of shelter services for women and their families in the country
*a leader in violence prevention, offering programs and services to more than 700,000 women and children annually
*the country's largest nonprofit provider of child care services, with 750,000 children participating in child care and after-school programs annually
*a comprehensive employment training and placement services agency, enrolling some 100,000 women annually

Alternative House tel.#
CRISIS HOTLINE TOLL-FREE NUMBER: 1-888-291-6228
They provide emergency (up to 90 days)confidential shelter for battered women and their children who are fleeing an abusive situation. After that period, they need transitional housing, where they can stay for up to two years. (This is a United Way Organization)


....that they're not alone, that they didn't cause it, that there is help, and that silence kills."
From Women's Refuge Shelter in California

"Love Should Not Hurt."

I hope you use this information to get the help you need. Think about it, he could have used the knife on you instead of himself? Half the times this is the way the story ends. Consider yourself lucky.
Plese do whatever it takes, do it in the name of your daughter. Make a sacrifice, from this point forward things are going to go from bad to worse.
I'm not trying to be harsh on you it's just I've seen it happen!!

Take Care girl and we're here if you need us.

[shortymama-4u]

Hello.. This is my first time logging into this site... So you're probably wondering who Iam...

Please don't take blame for what he did! HE really does need to seek some help! Try to think about your daughter as well as yourself! Be careful and you should let your relationship cool off for a while. I have a son and I know how it must feel. Remember your daughter comes first! Take care and I wish you the best of luck!