Why Me?

[NewYoricanHippie83]

An evil dominican male broke my heart. Two actually. I keep falling for those basterds. Geminis too. I'm a virgo and non-compatible with them. The first never called, never came to visit. So I lost his number purposely. He stood me up to many times. The second was the worst of all. He made me fall hard before he ripped my heart to shreds. I lost twenty pounds over the summer and tons of sleep because of him. Why can't I find a nice Puerto Rican Thug to take care of me (just kiddin').I do want to marry a good Puerto Rican guy that aleast understands spanish but the male population has been Americanized.
Ladies help me out, those of you that understand.

[Italia_Lena]

You have the strength deep inside of you to "Get over this loser"! I know how you feel with not eating and the depression, but what you need to do is keep your mind busy for right now. Try something new that you've never done before. I went thru this before, and it hurts really bad. You never forget that kind of pain, and you never wish it on your worst enemy! When I was going thru this I really tried to stick close to my best friend. To spend time with my mom, and family. I talked a lot to my brothers and got advice from them. I even went to some Therapy which helped me tremendously. I than started volunteering my free time at a Safe Home for abused children under the age of 5.

Im not sure how old you are or what your circumstances bring, but I can tell you my opinion on your situation. It sounds to me like this guy didn't give a rats **S about you! Im sorry if that sounds brutal, but its the honest truth! Many guys feel the need to get close to a girl/woman so that they can get what they want out of them and than they get tired and things get old and they pick up and move on. A couple things to remember. One is that this isn't your fault. Men that do this (and there are a lot) have deeper issues with in themselves that they never chose to deal with. Second is that this man wants something from you, it may or may not be "sex", it could be an emotional attachment from a female, or a posession...you never know what they are truly after. Third is that they will tell you anything to get what they want! They will tell you they "Love you" or they Adore you, or how they want to marry you one day and spend the rest of their life with you, and than BAM...they leave you wondering what you did wrong Just remember it was him not you!

Now before you begin this whole process over again and get your heart broken again, consider this: Try finding yourself. Find out how you really feel and what you really think. Try to find out what you really want in life. Look more at yourself and spend more quality time with you! YOu are your best friend!

Something to look at when you decide you are ready to start dating again is this: What kind of family does this man come from? Does he share the same ethics, morals, and values as I do? Does he want what I want? Example: marriage, children, religion....ect.
Is he compasionate towards my feelings? Does he understand me when I speak to him or does he drift off and not listen. Will he be willing to do the things I want to do some of the time we are together, ect...

I hope I've helped you and I wish you the best of luck!