I Wish My Mom and I Were Talking Again

[Xica_la_Vega2]

My mother and I haven't been talking for about a good 2 and a half months. It's one of those fights that gets started, and the reason was so stupid u can't really remember what caused the fight in the first place. We just walk around the house, not speaking to each other. I don't think anybody is really that mad anymore, but it all comes down to who is gonna swallow their pride and squash the whole situation completely. I know that she is my mother, and she is my heart, but some of the things she said really hurt me, and I don't know if I'm ready to be the bigger person and apologize. Please give me some advice mi gente!!
--- NUYORICAN BORICUA

[evelyntorres]

This is one place that I have been. Im sorry that you have to go through this especially at this time of year. But that is the answer. THIS TIME OF YEAR. This is when we all put aside our differences and make new relationships or mend old ones. You may be alot like your mother, and this is where you learned to keep your pride. I kept telling myself that if something happened to my mother where I couldnt apologize it would kill me at heart and mind. I needed to stand up and be the BIG person for my own self respect and esteem. You can never change your mother, she is set in her ways, but you can change the way you approach what she feels. I know, your feelings are just as important, but your self respect and your family values are more crucial now. You can not teach an old dog new tricks. Please, be the bigger one in this issue and mend things, you said that you dont even remember what the fight was about. When and if she says anything in reference to the problem than state that you have taken her points into consideration and that you have learned by it and that you will in the future view both sides and come to a common ground to solve it. That way both sides are satisfied. Good luck and hope everything turns out just great. Remember that she is the only mother that you will ever have. Evelyn.

[Italia_Lena]

Listen, I know you may not always agree with your madre, pero she is your mother. Like it or not! We all say things we don't mean when we are angry or in the moment of a heated argument. Just remember, that one day your mom will not be here for you to "not talk to". Try and let by gones be by gones as they say. You love your mother, and I am sure she loves you very very much! Don't be stubborn. It gets you no where! If something is bothering you, the silent treatment is never the way to go. I suggest you make amends with your mother before it is too late! A couple of months is too long already! Now go on....girl! Get movin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Leticia_g]

Talk to your mother. I would find it very difficult to live in the same house with anyone and not talk to them. My mother and I have always been very close. I can't even think of being angry at her for an extended time. My daughters and I have the same relationship. I'm not saying we never disagree, however when you love someone you try to compromise, you try to work things out. It must be very difficult for you to hold all this hurt inside. Talk to your mom, tell her that you are sorry for being angry for so long but that you were hurt. Tell her how you feel without putting her in the defensive. As a mother, I am telling you that it makes a world a difference how you say things. I always tell my daughters that I don't expect to keep quiet if I say something that hurts them, however I do expect them to argue their point respectfully. This I am sure no matter how angry you or your mom are, will make you think twice before holding in resentment. Good luck!