I am Queen and so R U...

[Brenda]

I believe it is time for women to REALLY look at ourselves and say the above phrase.

Not all of us feel as if we are worthy of anything or anyone. F-that! Excuse my french.:-)

I have been and also witnessed so many women who don't think much of themselves and that truly bothers me.

No matter the problems that my husband and I have gone through, he has always treated me like the Queen that I am. And I don't say that with the purpose of thinking that I am better than the next. I say that because Damn it, that is how it should be.

I was raised seeing my father open the door for my mother at all times and that is what I wanted for a husband. I now have it. When we were dating and his family would see him do this for me, they would of course talk trash, in saying that I can't do anything for myself, that he has to do everything.... WHATEVER!! Like I always say, Don't hate, just learn.

We bare their children, we go to work, we take care of the house, we put our lives on the line every time we have a child.... Do you hear what I'm saying?

Of'course, this does not apply to the HOOCHIE MAMA'S....:-) This msg. is for the WOMEN out there, who respect themselves and carry themselves as LADIES>

No matter what, always be a lady. For example, I carry myself in a different way than many. Just by my appearance you can tell, I am a lady but at the same time you can also tell, Don't cross her. As beautiful as I can be, that's how UGLY I can be as well.

Ladies, always know that WE have the POWER to all. It's all on how you use that power...

Talk to me now...

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Mamichula

[THE_NALGA_KILLER]

brenda you go girl ,represent

[Brenda]

That's right BOO, Got's to.
Thank you SOOSOO much for not replying with one of your usual remarks. I usually laugh at them, but I appreciate you looking at this topic as a serious one.
I knew you had it in you...:-) Keep it up!

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Mamichula

[SEXYE]

Yes Mama you go, Senora Mamichula,
I agree w/ you cause there is alot of us that at one point in our lifes we feel that way, but you know I thank God for giving me a friend like you cause the minute i start to feel this way your there and you bring my selfesteem back up. Love ya.!!
and yes WE DO HAVE THE POWER. !!!!! WE SHOULD NEVER LET ANYBODY TREAT US LIKE WE ARE NOTHING CAUSE WE ARE THE BOMB, WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL IN OUR OWN WAYS.


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SEXYE

[BRENDABORICUA]

BRENDA, VAYA!!!! WE GOT TWO THINGS IN COMMON, OUR NAME AND WHAT YOU WROTE ABOUT. I FEEL THE SAME WAY, I JUST WISH MY HUSBAND WOULD REALIZE IT, HE LOVES ME BUT HE DOESN'T REALIZE HOW HARD I TRY SOMETIMES. I MEAN I WE JUST HAD A BABY RECENTLY AND NOT ONCE DID HE HAVE TO GO OUT OF HIS WAY TO DO THINGS FOR LA NENA I ALWAYS DID EVERYTHING FOR HER BECAUSE HE WAS WORKING AND I STAYED HOME GETTING OVER MY C SECTION. I'D HAVE DINNER READY, THE HOUSE CLEAN THE BABY BATHED AND FED SO THAT HE COULD COME STRAIGHT HOME TO SPEND Q TIME WITH US. NOW THE ROLES ARE REVERSED BUT I STILL HAVE TO COME HOME TO DO EVERYTHING. I WISH HE REALIZED HOW MUCH WE GO THROUGH AND BE A LITTLE MORE APPRECIATIVE. I'M ONLY TWENTY YEARS OLD AND I HAVE A WHOLE LIFETIME TO LOOK FORWARD TO. I HOPE HE LEARNS TO APPRECIATE THE QUEEN HE HAS. MANY TIMES HE FORGETS!!!!! MEN OUT THERE... APPRECIATE YOUR WOMEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE A TWENTY FOUR HOUR JOB CALLED MOTHERHOOD. ITS NOT EASY. WHILE MOST PEOPLE EAT AND TAKE NAPS DURING THEIR LUNCH HOUR, I'M IN THE RESTROOM PUMPING BREAST MILK FOR MY BABY. THAT'S JUST ONE OF THE SACRIFICES I MUST GO THROUGH. I LOVE MY HUSBAND DON'T GET ME WRONG, BUT A LITTLE PAMPERING ONCE IN AWHILE DOESN'T HURT. BRENDA, I FELT EVERYTHING YOU SAID, MEN PLEASE LISTEN. GIVE YOUR WOMAN LOVE AND APPRECIATION, SHE JUST MIGHT NEED IT TODAY.

[Brenda]

Thanks, Brenda.
But you know something, he will not know unless you tell him. I feel for you in the situation that you are in. After having a C section, you are not supposed to do any of what you say that you do. He should really think of what that is or could do to your system. Where you are...I was.
Talk to him and let him know how you feel and see if anything changes. You have to let him know or have him recognize the things that you do and you wouldn't mind a little bit of help and pampering as well. Let him know, like I told my husband, the same way you want me to treat you, I want you to treat me.

Don't get me wrong, My husband does the majority of the house work because he works at night. When I come home all I have to do is cook dinner. But everything else, he does including the laundry. So I really can't complain in the department.

In order to make a marriage work, there has to be a lot of communication between the two. The key to communication is LISTENING>

Try that and let me know how it goes. If for some reason it doesn't work, we can always go another route.

Bye tocaya!

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Mamichula

[Brenda]

Sexy... Thank you for expresing your thoughts in such a way towards me. That is what friends are for. The same way that I am there for you, you have been for me. Thank you.

The bottom line is we need to if not stick together as women, make sure that you know for your self what you are worth. A lot more than any $ amount.

Love you too, mama.

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Mamichula