two lover and one heart

[Sunshine]

Help! I have been dating the same guy for two years. For a long time, I could not picture myself with anyone else. We were going to get married and start our life together. But things changed. He joined the Army and will be leaving to Korea soon. Meanwhile, I have been attending a business college where I met this terrific guy. Things got pretty bad between me and my man. I got so confused and I couldn't concentrate on anything. I left my boyfriend because I felt it was the best thing. Believe me, it was the worst thing I could have done. I love him with all my heart, but this new guy has been my best friend for the last year. He has been there for me through it all. I don't know what to do. They both mean so much to me. The problem is, the first guy still wants to marry me. I can't have both of them..... so what do I do? Help!!!!!

[Aviator]

Hmmmm.......thats a tough one.....hey, to relieve some stress why dont you give me some info about San Juan...do you live there? Have you been there.....I'm flying down tommorrow to visit with a few buddies and need info on where to go and clubs etc....thanks.....

[FLACA]

OK!! FROM THE DEPTHS OF MY SOULS' HEART TO THE DEPTHS OF YOURS...

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF... YOU DO KNOW WHAT YOUR HEART TRULY WANTS BUT YOU ARE BATTELING BETWEEN YOUR MIND WHICH FEELS WITH PRACTICSLNESS AND THE SAFE OR "KNOWN" THINGS... AND WITH YOUR HEART WHICH FEELS WITH EVERY BREATH YOU TAKE, EVERY INSPIRATION IN LIFE THAT MAKES YOU WANT TO LIVE..
SOOOO... JUST SIT STILL FOR A MOMENT WITH TRUE TRUE PEACE... TAKE A DEEP BREATH, CLOSE YOUR EYES, AND FEEL YOUR HEART, FEEL THE THOUGHTS THAT MAKE YOUR TOES JUST CURL, YOUR STOMACHE ACHE AND NOT WANT TO EAT, THE OVERWHELMING EXCITEMENT OF ENERGY THAT OVERCOMES YOUR BODY AND MAKES YOU FEEL WEAK THAT YOU HAVE TO SIT DOWN OR WRAP YOUR ARMS AROUND LOVE AND ENVELOP IT WITH ALL YOUR LIFE...
NOW!!! WHO DO YOU SEE????
FIRST YOU'VE GOT TO SEE YOU, YOU'VE GOT TO FEEL YOU... THEN, YOU WILL CLEARLY SEE THE MAN YOUR HEART DESIRES YOUR FUTURE TO BE WITH FOREVER... DON'T CHEAT YOURSELF... JUST BE TRUE TO YOU!!! THE TRUTH SHALL SET YO FREE!!!

BOY DID I FEEL THAT ONE... I FEEL YOU GIRL, JUST DON'T FORGET THAT NO MATTER GOD IS IN CONTROL BUT YOU'VE GOT TO LET HIM WORK AND HE WORKS THROUGH YOUR HEART...

MMM...
BLESSINGS
XOXOXOX




[This message has been edited by FLACA (edited 01 September 1999).]

[Sunshine]

Hey Flaca, thanks for the help. I think that I am going to cry. Just kidding. I think that I might be able to get through this. I know who makes me happy and I know that I have made the right decision. Hey, that's funny about what you said about taking time to myself. One of my patients at work told me the same thing. I'm definately going to try it now. Thanks...

[Brenda]

I just want to say that one very important factor is to Take your time in making any decision. I'm not sure of your age, but you need to think of what makes you happy.
Before anything or anyone you need to know you and love you. Once you know that, you will be able to love another.

It is easy to fall into another person when they one who is or usually was there for you is no longer. Make sure that think this through very carefully. How long or have you even begun to be by yourself to have that time for you and appreciate you?

Been there done that, sweetie. Make sure you know what YOU want before you find yourself hurt or hurting someone that truly did not deserve it....

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Mamichula

[ggomez]

hey sunshine, don't become cloudy.
I think you are getting confused between a good friend and the love of your life. think about that. It happend to me once and I can tell you that's terrible. It can destroy ones friendship and others heart and yours both, frienship and heart. Are you involved in a serious relationship with your friend?(the second one)
If your are not please, don't do anything, you'll be sorry for that. If you are, you must be honest with him and with yourself specially, also with the one that want to get marry with you. I know you can do it. Trust in you.

[wallstreetboriqua]

Hi Sunshine,

Just like to let you know you are not alone, I have been there and so have a few people I know. My closest friend told me many years ago when he went through this that he knew what would happen, he said , I know Im going to lose them both. Guess what , He sure did.
Flaca, in my eyes seems to be very mature and knows what she is talking about. The problem is that people go with thier minds first, instead of their hearts. Than later in the future you will be saying, I COULD OF, I SHOULD OF ,I WOULD OF but you know what ?
you didn't !! Its a tough decision , I wish
you lots of luck, from my heart to you.
wallstreetboriqua!!!!!