In need of Love Advice?

[SEXYE]

Hi all, I'm a 27 year old female I have been together with my man for 6 years. I have two beautiful kids by him, ok here is the delima he's in Jail he's been away for about Year andhalf. I do love him but in the past he has done so many bad things to me, to star he had another kid with this other woman. The kids are only 8 months apart so you can imagine. He had been deseinving me all along. Well I meet this guy about 5 months ago, he's a very nice guy he treats me really good but of course I know that everythings stars out nice like that.
I have been intimate w/ this other guy and I liked it alot. He is the total opposite of my Man, this guy knows about my man and he's said to me plenty of times that he doesn't care, he tells me well the one that is here is me, not him. I had been seen him and for a while I thought it was just a bottycall that when ever I would call him he'll come over and we would have a good time. Well the other night he was over my house and said to me that he wanted more than what we had going he said to me that I was the Type of Woman he needs, he's really nice but he has 4 kids. not that that matters but I'm not sure if I want to get my self involved with this?? You see sometimes i think well why start over with someone different that i really don't know that well. and he doesn't know me either???
Well see I guess I'm really confuse cause a veces pienso que lo quiero pero yo se que Amor come el que le tengo a mi Marido no es. El me a dicho muchas veces que el me quiere a mi, and I have too in the heat of the moment??? Is that wrong of me???? Help


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SEXYE

[Eda]

Sexy, Its time to move on Chica. You need to worry about you and your children. A man with other Kids just like a women with other kids, takes a special person to deal with the other. Your in a good position right to move on with your life. If you know that your old man in Jail did you wrong before why stay with him. You sound like a very intelligent women to stand up for your self and do whats right for you and the kids. You shouldn't feel bad about your needs, thats natural. You can take it slow with your new man. If he doesn't have the patients for you to make a decision, then Chica maybe it just wasn't meant to be. That's good you were honest about the other Man. Your relationship is off to a good start what are you afraid of? Just take things slowly and go from there. You know if your heart still belongs to the other guy your in the wrong situation. If not, then your going to have to let the man in jail know whats up and be honest with him also. Dont lie, speak your mind and be truthful with your self. Its the only way to ease your conscience.

[princesita]

How much time does your man have to do in jail ? My advice girl is to go with your heart. Yes you have two children with this man but you know YOU have to be happy. If you really believe deep down inside that you care for this new person and he's going to makle you happy I say go for it. The thing is you, and only you know exactly how your realtionship is. You guys could have been together for 6 years but how many of those years were you happy ? Was it all good? See the thing is I hear you when you say I don't want to invest time in another realtionship. Pero tu eres joven. You have your whole life ahead of you. The way you have to see it is which picture are you going to happier in. Being in jail, they are lonely so they say the perfect things but when they come out are they going to act the same? That is the questions. Because if you don't any time you spend in to the realtionship, it's a waste of your time.

[STAR_ESCOBAR]

LOOK, I HAVE TWO KIDS MYSELF. I'M 24 YRS OLD & MARRIED. I HAVE A 6YR OLD BOY & A 1YR OLD GIRL. MY SON I HAD AT 18. MY HUSBAND IS NOT MY SON'S BIOLOGICAL FATHER, BUT THE ONLY REAL FATHERS HE'S HAD. WHEN I FIRST MET MY HUSBAND I WAS STRESSING THE SAME WAY. I JUST FELT LIKE, "WELL I HAVE A CHILD WITH MY SON'S FATHER I MIGHT AS WELL STAY WITH HIM."
WRRRRONG!! I WAS JUST NOT TRULY HAPPY WITH HIM & HE ALWAYS DID ME WRONG. (STICKING HIS THING WERE IT DIDN'T BELONG) ANYWAY, I LEFT MY HUSBAND ONCE, BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED & BEFORE I HAD MY DAUGHTER. WELL THAT WAS A BIG MISTAKE. IT TOOK THAT TO MAKE ME SEE THAT THIS MAN (MY HUSBAND) WAS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME, HE IS MY SOUL MATE. HE TOOK THE TIME TO REALLY KNOW WHO I WAS & WHAT I NEEDED & WANTED. HE CONSIDERED MY FEELINGS ASWELL AS HIS OWN. MOST OF ALL HE RESPECTED ME. WELL WE ARE MARRIED 2DAY & I'VE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER. MY SON'S FATHER IS STILL STICKING IT IN EVERY
CHIC IN MIAMI & DOESN'T EVEN BOTHER WITH MY SON(NOT A SURPRISE). MY SON CALLS MY HUSBAND DAD & THEY HAVE THE BEST RELATIONSHIP. POINT IS, YOU SHOULDN'T FEEL TIED TO THIS GUY JUST CAUSE OF THE KIDS. IF YOU WERE TRULY HAPPY YOU WOULD HAVE NEVER GOTTEN TO GETHER WITH THIS OTHER GUY. TRUTH IS YOU SEEM TO HAVE CAUGHT FEELINGS FOR THIS GUY & THAT'S WHAT YOUR STRESSING. GIRL JUST GO WITH IT. DON'T FIGHT IT. THIS NEW GUY MY BE YOUR TRU SOUL MATE. THIS IS HAPPENING FOR A REASON. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE HAPPY, & EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN IT'S PLACE.
IF YOUR MAN DID YOU WRONG BEFORE, IT WON'T TAKE LONG FOR HIM TO DO IT AGAIN ONCE HE GETS OUT.

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STAR ESCOBAR:
THE SHINING STAR OF THE
CARIBBEAN!

[SEXYE]

I thank everybody for your advice I'm gone let time take its course, Star I'm really happy that you found a good Man I think that because i been hurt alot in the past i'm scare of staring again, plus I'm always in contacto con la familia de el, su mama is always in my business, she doesn't want me to leave him. She's always saying porque ponerle un padrastro a esos ninos si tienen su papa, She's always makes those remarks or she tells me He only has me and you you are his strength right now. So yes i do get confused. But I also know that you guys are right cause while he's in there hes' gone promise me the world. and right now my Priority are my Kids.

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[SEXYE]

Actually NK I need a man not a little kid.
You are a very disturbed child.

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