Lost In Love

[El_Pintor]

I am a 28 year old married man. I made a mistake a few months ago, by cheating on my wife. I love her with all my heart. Even though there are no real reasons for cheating. I did it because I felt alone. I've always given her everything her heart desires. I an the affectionate type, But she's not. My needs have always been simple. I wish she could stay up with me late at night to watch television. Romance is a neccesity. I love candles, spontaneous hugs, showing affection and just alot of mushiness. Now that I did what I did everything is worse. i thought things were bad before but now there worse. We are married 8 years. We have two children. This is my first marriage, but this is her third. I feel as though I have been robbed at my chance at true love. Sometimes I wish I could make her feel what I feel. I feel empty inside.

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[J_Vargas]

Yes there is no excuse for cheating! But you did. What you need to do is try to figure out your wife. It seems to me she's been through a lot of hard relationships and quite has not allowed herself to be love as she deserves. When a person give of themselves and other take advantage of them, they tend to put up wall. These wall can come down. But only if you love her like you said. Also, you must be understanding of her feeling. I know you have feeling too! But looking for an afair outside of your relationship with your wife is cause for havoc to break loose. Start looking for the qualities that brought you 2 together. But don't give up and stop cheating on your best pal. I hope that other person was just a 1 nigh thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[J_Vargas]

Yes there is no excuse for cheating! But you did. What you need to do is try to figure out your wife. It seems to me she's been through a lot of hard relationships and quite has not allowed herself to be love as she deserves. When a person give of themselves and other take advantage of them, they tend to put up wall. These wall can come down. But only if you love her like you said. Also, you must be understanding of her feeling. I know you have feeling too! But looking for an afair outside of your relationship with your wife is cause for havoc to break loose. Start looking for the qualities that brought you 2 together. But don't give up and stop cheating on your best pal. I hope that other person was just a 1 nigh thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 8 years and 2 kids is a great investment to keep working on making this relationship work. What do you think???

[El_Pintor]

Thank you for your advice. It makes alot of sense. I do love my wife. I love her more than life itself.

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[El_Pintor]

When leaving responses please state city or state. Just to know where responses are coming from.

[J_Vargas]

Pintor, I'm from Hawaii living in one of the island.

[patti_martinez]

HI! I'M REALLY SORRY THAT YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS WITH YOUR WIFE DUE TO YOUR CHEATING. YOU SHOULD OF TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL INTEAD OF HAVING A AFFAIR. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE THE PAST OR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, BUT YOU COULD START BY FINDING OUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOUR WIFE IN HER PAST RELATIONSHIPS THAT SHE CAN NOT SHOW OR FEEL ANY AFFECTIONS TOWARDS YOU (TRY TO UNDERSTAND HER IT IS NOT EASY WHEN YOU HAVE HAD BAD RELATIONSHIPS IN THE PAST) YOU CAN START FROM SCRATCH GIVING HER LOVE NOTES, TAKING HER OUT TO DINNER (JUST THE 2 OF YOU) PICNICKS, SEND HER FLOWERS ETC... AND FROM TIME TO TIME TAKE THE KIDS W/YOU. HAVE HER FEELD LOVED AND CHERISHED. (REMEMBER TO BE PATIENT AND THAT IT MAY NOT BE EASY--ALSO REMEMBER TO LOTS OF COMUNICATION) AND GOOD LUCK!!!!

UBB
STAMFORD, CT