Why Sex and not Love?

[EuniceColon]

Hi guys maybe you can help me in this dilema that is bothering my life for a couple of month. How can a person make love is he is not inlove. Or is the word inlove just a myth and the really word is SEX. Guys help me understand this. Maybe you guy can help understand.

[BoricuaServer]

EuniceColon:

The old addage ask: Is the glass half full or half empty? In such a case, I think women see the potential (half full) AND the limits (half empty) as one. Men will see EITHER a possibility (sex, sex and more sex) OR a probality (love and commitment.)

Women perceive love and sex as inseparable, kind of like the two sides of the same coin. Men never make that connection, to men its either heads or tail. That is why men can separate the two, sex from love. For men, sex is a purely physical need, while love fulfills the emotional and spiritual.

In essense, men and women come at the question you raised from different points of view. In my younger years, I would never think of the need to love just to have sex. As I have gotten older, I see sex as the icing on the cake we call love. I'm not trying to justify nor rationalize, byt I think this difference in perception is so because of the different biological inprints.

[Nicoletta]

Boricuaserver is right. men and women think very differently about this subject, on average.

people just don't live up to their potentials anymore. all females aren't women, just as all males aren't men. people don't respect themselves and they don't respect each other. so they take for granted something like love...they use the word so loosely...it has pretty much lost it's meaning in today's world. so when people have a hard time understanding the real meaning of Love...how much more difficult will it be for them to understand the concept of Lovemaking???

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Nicoletta
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[PabloIV]

I would have to agree with El Boricua, as I do in many other things. For example last night I had sex with a beautiful woman called Suzanne, but I did not make love to her. This morning around 10 she woke up gave me a kiss and went home, I will probably see her again but, as you can imagine we do not love each other, we barely know each other, we just got together to have sex, to fulfill something we understand to be a perfectly natural PHYSICAL need. Now making love is a completely different story. When you have sex you feel good, well actually VERY good, but when you make love it's usually the slopiest most unimaginative sex you've ever had, but it feels as if you were tasting perfection itself (I should know I've been there) as if the hand of God himself came down from the skies and cradled you and your lover. Again I wouldn't just say that women are the ones who can't make the distinction between making love and having sex, exclusively. IO know many men who can't make the distinction and many women who can (Suzanne for example). It's all a matter of how comfortable you are with physicallity and contact with other people. Any other opinions please post them here, I'd love to hear what the religious right has to say about this.

[BoricuaServer]

PabloIV:

Hola, Papá. I hope you don{t mind, but you wrote, "I would have to agree with El Boricua, as I do in many other things."

May I be so presumpsuous (splg.) as to think that the complement refered to me, since I looked for any 'Boricua...' above, and found only my name.

Thanks.
From BoricuaServer.

[Nicoletta]

i would feel so cheap. to know that me sharing my body with someone was no more than just us "getting together to fulfill a perfectly natural physical need..."
i guess after the first time it gets easier and easier. and then it stops being special...and it starts being ordinary. no thanks.

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Nicoletta
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[PinkBoricuaSmurf]

Nicoletta is right. I was one of the many women who could not distiguish the difference between love and sex. And I have had sex to fill what I thought was a physical "need". In the end it didn't fulfill anything, as a matter of fact I felt more empty. After that I waited over a year and a half before I decided to share myself with someone like that again. And I found some one who loves me. And when we make love I know it's love because I can feel it. It's intense and beautiful and it's always there.
I think the biggest rule to making love is you have to actually be in love to do it!
Otherwise it is just sex.

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He loves me for me and I love him for that.
It's not as hard as it looks people!