the importance of looks in relationships

[karynrg]

after an interesting conversation i had with two dear friends i started thinking about the importance of appearance in relationships. what can i say, i start thinking after talking with people i appreciate and you are getting to see some of the questions that run in my head. i was wondering what is the importance of appearances in the beginning of a relationship, how much weight they have in determining if the person will have an opportunity to get a chance to show us there other sides, and how many people we miss out because at first glance we overlook them.if all participants in this relationship game know that they need to impress the other side aren't we dealing with a show, and if the purpous of meeting new people is to find a friend/lover isn't this intention missed? when is it o.k to let your guards down and stop performing, if its ever o.k? and if we are performing isn't it deceiving the other person?does it change with age/experience/desperation? and if it does , does it mean we are settling down for second best?is it different for male and females and if the object is a candidate to be a friend or lover?im not trying to be naive or coy but i always thought that although looks are important to some extent they are not the dominant thing that makes a person attractive, and as you get to know a person there importance in determining the attractiveness diminishes. attractiveness is composed of many things like wit, intelligence, passionate soul, kindness, the ability to dream, friendship and more.or am i the freak for thinking like that????id like to know what you thinkp.s-isn't tattoos cover of the smiths "how soon is now" an abomination???how can anyone ruin this song???????????

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[Stanley]

but i always thought that although looks are important to some extent they are not the dominant thing that makes a person attractive, and as you get to know a person there importance in determining the attractiveness diminishes. attractiveness is composed of many things like wit, intelligence, passionate soul, kindness, the ability to dream, friendship and more

This is the line I hear from folks with average looks. It is OK and I have no disagrement with the line.

IN general---- at the onset men go for the looks. If the personality is great-- then there is a match.


Many young woman also go fo the looks. However, women tend to go for other things a they get older (see above). Men tend to be more shallow and go for looks 1st.

I hope this helps

[LaDivaYDB]

Very true, men go for the looks as in a great body (the face won't matter that much if she has a great body). Men are shallow and they can get the worst of the appereances that is a woman with no inner beauty. Some men have a wake-up call and others put up with it just for the "great body". It depends how shallow is the man. Some men learn their lesson and become more patient when they are looking for a woman. They pay more attention to the inner beauty too. My man is a good example and not only he had found an attractive woman but he also found a woman with inner beauty. As for me I am careful not to overlook the inner beauty and I found the most beautiful man in spirit. He is also attractive and even though he has no ability on his arms due to a birth defect and do everything with his feet I think that is what had made him be so beautiful in his spirit. He is so sexy and amazing!