Many questions, emergency situation

[New_2_PR]

Hello everyone. I am in a unique situation and I need some info/advice from the native PR's. About a year ago I met a girl from PR online. We talked for about 8 months and we decided for her to move here to the United States to live with me. She wanted to leave because of her mother and she did not like her life there in PR. Towards the end of the year I met someone where I am and broke it off with the girl from PR. Well, she decided to move here anyway to live with a friend. She did not tell her family she was leaving. My other relationship ended and I decided to meet her for the first time. After a month of spending time with her, I fell in love with her and want her to live with me. This is a big decision for the both of us ( I have no asked her to move in yet ) but I am worried about her family. She has spoken with a couple of different family members but no her father, since she has moved here. She is afraid if she tells her father the truth he will make her come home, to PR and she does not want to leave the United States and I do not want to lose her. Now that you know this, here is what I want to know.
What do I need to do to make her family accept me?
She is 24 and Pentecostal, I am 24 and Baptist. I have a great job and can support her until she gets on her feet but if her father finds out she is living with a man, out of marriage, she says that would really upset and hurt him.
Is there anything I need to know about her culture to help me in this situation. I think I may have to fly down there to meet him and explain to him that I love her and want to be with her but I do not want to marry her right now.From what she says is that she cannot live with a man unless they are married, which is not what she wants but what her father wants. She loves him very much and does not want to hurt him. Is there any advice, comments, anything I need to know from any of you to help me.

Muchos gracias

[Raulgr]

New,

I don't know any Puerto Rican dad's liberal enough to let you try the merchandise before buying. And, as she is apparently conflicted in the matter, you are probably playing with FIRE.

While I have lived with a number of women, my read is that this is one you play straight.

By the way, it's muchas gracias.

Regards, Raul (alias son of Abbey)

[New_2_PR]

Hey Raulgr,

How do I need to approach her father?
Do I need to let her talk to her father on her own or should I be there with her?
I am in love with this girl and I need to know how to make this all work.

Thanks for your reply @

[Raulgr]

Originally posted by New_2_PR
Do I need to let her talk to her father on her own or should I be there with her?

I vote for the former. But, what do I know? Good luck!

Regards, Raul

[PhiDaWg61]

YOUR UP **** CREEK PAL!

[New_2_PR]

I just don't understand any of this. I wish that everything will ok and I pray every night.
I just want what is best for her and what will make her happy, even if that means her moving back to PR with her family. All I want to know is what she wants.
This sucks, but it will work itself out in time.

Wish me luck !

[Geetee]

Hi New_2_PR,

Tell me something, u say that “She is 24 and Pentecostal, I am 24 and Baptist”. Are these just religious titles you each have or do any of u 2 actually believe in God.

This is going to sound a little anti 21 th century, but here it goes anyway:

! READ THE BIBLE MAN!

“This is why a man (or woman) will leave his father and his mother and he (or she) must stick to his wife (or husband) and they must become one flesh.” Gen. 2:24

“For this is what God wills, the sanctifying o you, that you abstain from fornication…” 1 Thes. 4:3

Do you really want her to be happy? Marie her for Gods sakes. But by no means are you to rush into it. Give it time, get to know each other, and keep in mine: A house divided in worship is weak in its foundation…

“And if somebody could overpower one alone, two together could make a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two.”
Ecc. 4:12

Be Good.

GeeTee.